a-lolitas-life:

Calling all Daddies, Littles, Caregivers, Bigs, ABDLs, Pets and everyone in between! 
Come play at the Happiest Place on Earth!
                  ********LittleSpace Disneyland Trip 2014!!!********
There is no place like Disneyland to bring out the Little in all of us! Bring your friends and meet other littles and Bigs! Stay for a day or for the weekend! Join us for meals or do your own thing! Hang out in groups, or enjoy some one-on-one Big/little time! We just want to see you there!
(This event coincides with Gay Days in Anaheim! Wear red to show your pride and support!)
Here is the event page on FETLIFE where you can RSVP and keep up to date on any information about the Littlespace Disneyland Trip 2014!!
The Schedule:
Friday October 3rd: Pizza Party at Anaheim Plaza Hotel
7:00pm - Pizza Pool Party at Anaheim Plaza Hotel! (Hosted by Daddy Vinnie & Lolita)

Come swim in the pool or soak in the hot tub, eat pizza, and make new friends! (Please bring a small donation for purchase of Round Table Pizza.) The party ends after the fireworks, around 10pm.

Saturday October 4th: Disneyland Day!
8:00am - Breakfast at River Belle Terrace in Frontierland!

Eat Mickey Mouse pancakes, giggle, meet new people, and make plans for the day! At 9am, we will depart to our first ride: Pirates of the Caribbean in New Orleans Square! After Pirates, we will go our separate ways to enjoy the park!

1:00pm/1:30pm - Lunch at Space Place (outside Space Mountain)

Take a break from your day with a quick lunch with all the Bigs and littles! Maybe even make plans to ride a few rides together!

6:00pm - Get ready for Fantasmic! & Fireworks!

Bring a beach towel and claim your seat for the show! We will gather along the river’s edge just across from Pirates of the Caribbean at 6pm SHARP. Relax, chat with friends, and take turns reserving our space. Come and go as you please. Fantasmic! starts at 9pm and is immediately followed by the Fireworks Spectacular at 9:35pm, so stay seated!

Start time TBA to end around 1:30am - Meet and Greet (Location TBA)

Come meet with Daddy Vinnie and Lolita to make new Big/little friends and enjoy a social hour or two to wind down from the day! Since this is a more private environment, the sexual aspects of Big/little and ABDL topics can be appropriately discussed if interested. ((BYOB)) If you’re interested in this event, please contact Daddy Vinnie for the details

Sunday October 5th: California Adventure Day!
8:30am - Breakfast at *IHOP on 1560 S. Harbor BlvdAnaheim, CA.*

It’s across from the Disneyland Resort entrance. Start the day with new friends and a casual breakfast. We will depart at 9:30am and meander to California Adventure! This is the perfect event to attend if perhaps you’re unable to come inside the parks or to any of the previous meet ups!!

1:00pm - Group Ride at The Twilight Zone Tower of Terror!

Let’s all gather together to ride The Twilight Zone Tower of Terror! Let’s try and fill a whole car with Bigs and Littles! Afterwards, we will all walk together to the Lunch Discussion!

2:00pm - A Big Little Discussion Lunch at Flo’s V8 Cafe!

Come participate in a fun lunch discussion on all things Age Play, ABDL, Pet Play, and Daddy/little of all types! Of course since the discusssion is at a public venue it will be non-sexual and environment appropriate. Just like any fetlife public event, everyone is aware there are certain things you can and cannot discuss. There will be public friendly topic questions at hand! The San Diego “A Big Little Discussion Group” focuses on education and support for Littles and their caregivers who participate in consensual adult role play and relationships. We are a pansexual group and welcome all dynamics and sexual orientations. Come have lunch with us at Flo’s and join in an open discussion with other Bigs and Littles!

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Travel & Accommodations:
Ride Amtrak or fly JetBlue - [http://www.jetblue.com].
Stay at the Anaheim Plaza Hotel & Suites - [http://www.anaheimplazahotel.com]
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Spread the word, invite your friends, shout it out at the top of your lungs because it’s a Littles event for everyone!
If you have ANY questions please contact: Daddy Vinnie or Lolita.
Hope to see you there!

a-lolitas-life:

Calling all Daddies, Littles, Caregivers, Bigs, ABDLs, Pets and everyone in between! 

Come play at the Happiest Place on Earth!

                  ********LittleSpace Disneyland Trip 2014!!!********

There is no place like Disneyland to bring out the Little in all of us! Bring your friends and meet other littles and Bigs! Stay for a day or for the weekend! Join us for meals or do your own thing! Hang out in groups, or enjoy some one-on-one Big/little time! We just want to see you there!

(This event coincides with Gay Days in Anaheim! Wear red to show your pride and support!)

Here is the event page on FETLIFE where you can RSVP and keep up to date on any information about the Littlespace Disneyland Trip 2014!!

The Schedule:

Friday October 3rd: Pizza Party at Anaheim Plaza Hotel

7:00pm - Pizza Pool Party at Anaheim Plaza Hotel! (Hosted by Daddy Vinnie & Lolita)

Come swim in the pool or soak in the hot tub, eat pizza, and make new friends! (Please bring a small donation for purchase of Round Table Pizza.) The party ends after the fireworks, around 10pm.

Saturday October 4th: Disneyland Day!

8:00am - Breakfast at River Belle Terrace in Frontierland!

Eat Mickey Mouse pancakes, giggle, meet new people, and make plans for the day! At 9am, we will depart to our first ride: Pirates of the Caribbean in New Orleans Square! After Pirates, we will go our separate ways to enjoy the park!

1:00pm/1:30pm - Lunch at Space Place (outside Space Mountain)

Take a break from your day with a quick lunch with all the Bigs and littles! Maybe even make plans to ride a few rides together!

6:00pm - Get ready for Fantasmic! & Fireworks!

Bring a beach towel and claim your seat for the show! We will gather along the river’s edge just across from Pirates of the Caribbean at 6pm SHARP. Relax, chat with friends, and take turns reserving our space. Come and go as you please. Fantasmic! starts at 9pm and is immediately followed by the Fireworks Spectacular at 9:35pm, so stay seated!

Start time TBA to end around 1:30am - Meet and Greet (Location TBA)

Come meet with Daddy Vinnie and Lolita to make new Big/little friends and enjoy a social hour or two to wind down from the day! Since this is a more private environment, the sexual aspects of Big/little and ABDL topics can be appropriately discussed if interested. ((BYOB)) If you’re interested in this event, please contact Daddy Vinnie for the details

Sunday October 5th: California Adventure Day!

8:30am - Breakfast at *IHOP on 1560 S. Harbor Blvd
Anaheim, CA.*

It’s across from the Disneyland Resort entrance. Start the day with new friends and a casual breakfast. We will depart at 9:30am and meander to California Adventure! This is the perfect event to attend if perhaps you’re unable to come inside the parks or to any of the previous meet ups!!

1:00pm - Group Ride at The Twilight Zone Tower of Terror!

Let’s all gather together to ride The Twilight Zone Tower of Terror! Let’s try and fill a whole car with Bigs and Littles! Afterwards, we will all walk together to the Lunch Discussion!

2:00pm - A Big Little Discussion Lunch at Flo’s V8 Cafe!

Come participate in a fun lunch discussion on all things Age Play, ABDL, Pet Play, and Daddy/little of all types! Of course since the discusssion is at a public venue it will be non-sexual and environment appropriate. Just like any fetlife public event, everyone is aware there are certain things you can and cannot discuss. There will be public friendly topic questions at hand! The San Diego “A Big Little Discussion Group” focuses on education and support for Littles and their caregivers who participate in consensual adult role play and relationships. We are a pansexual group and welcome all dynamics and sexual orientations. Come have lunch with us at Flo’s and join in an open discussion with other Bigs and Littles!

***

Travel & Accommodations:

Ride Amtrak or fly JetBlue - [http://www.jetblue.com].

Stay at the Anaheim Plaza Hotel & Suites - [http://www.anaheimplazahotel.com]

***

Spread the word, invite your friends, shout it out at the top of your lungs because it’s a Littles event for everyone!

If you have ANY questions please contact: Daddy Vinnie or Lolita.

Hope to see you there!

(via daddyvinnie)

ialwaysreadorganismwrong said: Well with an age gap of a whopping 27 years, we began our LDR in October. LDRs suck but it's the best we've got, I suppose. I am a huge fan of (in addition to having a teenybig crush on) you and your Lo! Your blog is so helpful! I'm always won...

Oh my very goodness! My apologies for you not receiving the message. It was roughly me talking about how Papapotomous and I have been in a LDR since mid October. We have a 27 year age gap, which is absolutely one of the hottest things ever. I also said that I do.. uhm.. have a teenybig crush on you.. I really hope you don’t find that inappropriate. But I talk about your blog to Daddy all the time and (although he doesn’t do the tumblr) he says that from what he’s heard from me, you’re a “groovy” guy (hehe he’s so old). I’ve found your blog extremely helpful and I believe that Lo is very lucky to have a Daddy like you! There are so many babies being mistreated by their bigs and that’s not how bdsm works. I love to see dynamics that are functional and happy! My Daddums is a very loving man. He never allows me to apologise for things (which is my worst habit) and loves me no matter what. He’s also super smart! He builds things! *Whispers* On a molecular leveeeelll! If I had to say that I was a certain age, I’d be about four or five in that I’m still madly in love with my paci and stuffed babies and princesses! I’m not meaning to ramble, I just really love talking about my Dada c:

— ialwaysreadorganismwrong

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Dear ialwaysreadorganismwrong,
Thanks for writing!  A 27 year age gap is great!  The age gap between me and my Lolita is a little over 22 years.   And it’s super fun to have a Daddy who builds things and can help you with your homework….on a molecular level.  haha!   
Thanks for visiting my blog.  Hope you stop by again soon.
- Daddy Vinnie

Anonymous said: Hi Daddy Vinnie. I am in a dd/lg relationship with the sweetest man alive (my personal perspective). But he seems to be scared to hurt me. He always gives me a time-out when I've been bad, always (he has read somewhere on the net that that's a very effective little punishment). But sometimes I need a little more than just a time-out because I feel like I don't learn much from it... how can I tell him this respectfully? Thank you! ^^

Dear Wants Something More Anon,

Sounds like someone’s asking for a spanking.  It’s up to your Daddy to punish you in the way he likes best.   

If you want more - such as a spanking - maybe you can institute spanking time as a playtime activity.   

I think if you get on all hours in front of him and wag your butt and look up at him coyly and say, “Daddy, will you spank me?” you very well might get a reaction from him.  It’s really up to you and your dynamic.   

But…. if you like spankings or want something else, why would your Daddy give you a spanking for a punishment if you like it?   Sooooo, you see, your Daddy gets to choose which punishment he thinks works best for you!

At certain times, outside of your roles, you may wish to talk about what works and what does work about your dynamic.  Then you can both grow in your roles and see what is the best for you both.

Instead of time-out, he could ask you to write lines.  Would that be better?  Be careful what you wish for. :)

- Daddy Vinnie

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Anonymous said: Hi! I'm new to the Daddy/little girl dynamic and to being a lolita. I was wondering is a little age of 15-17 too old? That's the age I feel a lot of the time, but it seems too old to be considered little. I appreciate any advice. Thanks in advance.

Dear Aged Anon,

Anything younger than 18 and younger than your current age can be appropriate ages for a Little.  

The many Littles I know who identify as teens call themselves “Middles” and “Brats” rather than “Littles.”  What you call yourself is up to you.  But that you are having fun with the age that you feel - that’s what’s important.

The term “Little” is the most generic of the terms in the DD/lg dynamic and can encompass those who role-play between the ages of 0 - 17.  I hope this helps!

- Daddy Vinnie

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cumslut-bitch said: I am new to DD/lg, and I also need some Dom training. I was wonderful if you would be able to push me the right way into where to get started. Anything would be greatly appreciated.

Dear cumslut-bitch,

Read read read.  Read read and read some more.  Go to local events and make friends with others and learn from them.  Check out Fetlife and look for events near you.

Cheers!

- Daddy Vinnie

urdaddylovesme said: My boyfriend of 3 mos is wonderfully pervy. I’ve told him about DD/lg & he's intrigued. I've started calling him Daddy sometimes& he calls me his baby girl… But I need more. We’ve talked about what I like & I've recently described a scene I'd love to share to give him ideas. I'm not sure he knows how to start or initiate his Dominance. He’s been exposed to the lifestyle but limited experience being Dominant & a Daddy. How can I get us there without “topping from the bottom"?

Dear urdaddylovesme,

Sometimes, the submissive or Little has the most experience in a couple when a relationship just begins.  So there is a bit of learning and training for the Dominant to undergo.  

So you talk about the scenarios and the things you do outside the framework of the DD/lg or D/s relationship.  When you are actually engaged in play, you each play your own role. 

It’s kind of like rehearsing. During rehearsal you can try things, improvise, alter the script.  But then when you both get it down, you focus on delivering your own lines and carrying out the actions as best you can, helping each other along the way. But you can’t actually perform the other person’s role for them. That wouldn’t be right.

Rather than direct, correct, or criticize your Dominant during a scene (which would be topping from below), go through the scene. And then about 24 hours later, talk about what worked and what could be improved. That way, for the next time, you can eliminate the things that don’t work and can focus on the things that do.

I hope this helps.

- Daddy Vinnie

niamh-taigh said: hello there Daddy Vinnie, i much enjoy both your blog and Lo's ..i saw the question about collars and your answer and i have very long hair and had the same issue with tugging pulling and breaking. my Sir found an etsy artist that does some amazing things with beautiful day collars and i thought i would quietly share: mockingbird lane wire (it won't let me put the link in) she also does bracelets. thanks for all the wonderful blog moments..

Dear niamh-taigh,

Why thank you very much for the etsy artist information!   I’ll certainly take a look.

I hope you will enjoy many more blog moments for some time to come.

- Daddy Vinnie

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Anonymous said: My daddy and I are are new to ddlg (only a few months). He came up with the idea last night to start giving me an allowance! 5 dollars a week, and each time I am bad he takes away 25 cents. He is quite independently wealthy for his age, so this isn't really a big deal to him. Anyway, he thought I could save up the money to buy a new stuffie or dress, and he calls them "Daddy Dollars". I liked the idea, but then I kinda thought "sugar daddy". Do other people in ddlg do this? I'm curious.

Dear Dollars and Cents Anon,

I don’t know of other Daddy/littles that have an allowance system like you have, but I imagine there are others who do that.   I LIKE the idea of “Daddy Dollars.” That sounds like a fun idea.  

I don’t think you would get that confused with “sugar daddy,” which is an entirely different kind of dynamic.

There is actually a really good scene in the book/movie of Lolita, in which she begins to extort money from Humbert Humbert.  She saves it up to plan her escape. For certain touches, she charges some money. She negotiates her allowance up by touching Humbert teasingly in a sexual way and then stops to make him agree to raising her allowance.   Guess who wins this little competition? :)

Lo and I play with that idea a lot, as play. It’s a good time!

Thanks for writing. Keep saving your pennies *wink*

- Daddy Vinnie

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lily-antigone said: Are there any new bedtime stories in the works?

Dear lily-antigone,

There are! 

No, really. There are.

- Daddy Vinnie

Anonymous said: Do you HAVE to be girly to be Little? A Daddy I was talking to said that because I'm not feminine enough, I can't be a little because littles like cute and fluffy things. I like those things, just not all the time or as much as other littles do... :/

Dear Non-Girly Anon,

Absolutely NOT - you do not have to be girly to be a Little.  In fact, there are many boy Littles out there, and there are just as many non-girly Girl Littles out there.  

Being a Little isn’t about being a gender or sexual orientation. It’s a mindset loosely related to age and certainly associated with types of young activities.  

Be yourself. That’s the best you can be, and it will vary from hour to hour and day to day.

- Daddy Vinnie

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