It’s almost TIME!!   We’re so excited. Please reblog this so everyone who needs to see it will see it.
We’re collecting RSVPs for Breakfast with the Disney Characters for LittleSpace 2014 at Disneyland on Saturday, Oct 4, 2014 at 9:00 a.m.  It’s going to be so much fun!
Please let me know if you want to attend the breakfast. We’ll need an accurate head count two days before the event.  
If you aren’t planning on going to the breakfast but will be coming to LittleSpace, write me anyway so we can be sure to meet up.  There is a full slate of activities planned. The announcement is on my blog and on FetLife.   
It’s going to be the happiest day on earth at the happiest place on Earth!  Yay LittleSpace 2014 at Disneyland.
- Daddy Vinnie

It’s almost TIME!!   We’re so excited. Please reblog this so everyone who needs to see it will see it.

We’re collecting RSVPs for Breakfast with the Disney Characters for LittleSpace 2014 at Disneyland on Saturday, Oct 4, 2014 at 9:00 a.m.  It’s going to be so much fun!

Please let me know if you want to attend the breakfast. We’ll need an accurate head count two days before the event.  

If you aren’t planning on going to the breakfast but will be coming to LittleSpace, write me anyway so we can be sure to meet up.  There is a full slate of activities planned. The announcement is on my blog and on FetLife.   

It’s going to be the happiest day on earth at the happiest place on Earth!  Yay LittleSpace 2014 at Disneyland.

- Daddy Vinnie

TATTOO DAY!!

a-lolitas-life:

It’s going to represent a growth and change I’ve experienced in my life. My stepping outside of the box I was raised within, felt I HAD to be in. My breaking free and discovering who I am, what I love, how I love. A transition to a happier, healthier life full of love and acceptance of all.

I can’t wait to show you guys!

xoxo,

Lolita

You deserve it, kiddo!  Love your life, Love MY life with you.  You’re the bestest little ever!

Love Daddy
xoxo

a-lolitas-life:

Calling all Daddies, Littles, Caregivers, Bigs, ABDLs, Pets and everyone in between! 
Come play at the Happiest Place on Earth!
                  ********LittleSpace Disneyland Trip 2014!!!********
There is no place like Disneyland to bring out the Little in all of us! Bring your friends and meet other littles and Bigs! Stay for a day or for the weekend! Join us for meals or do your own thing! Hang out in groups, or enjoy some one-on-one Big/little time! We just want to see you there!
(This event coincides with Gay Days in Anaheim! Wear red to show your pride and support!)
Here is the event page on FETLIFE where you can RSVP and keep up to date on any information about the Littlespace Disneyland Trip 2014!!
The Schedule:
Friday October 3rd: Pizza Party at Anaheim Plaza Hotel
7:00pm - Pizza Pool Party at Anaheim Plaza Hotel! (Hosted by Daddy Vinnie & Lolita)

Come swim in the pool or soak in the hot tub, eat pizza, and make new friends! (Please bring a small donation for purchase of Round Table Pizza.) The party ends after the fireworks, around 10pm.

Saturday October 4th: Disneyland Day!
New Breakfast Plans
9:00 am Breakfast at Plaza Inn at the end of MainStreet. 
Have breakfast with the Disney Characters!  Meet Little Scouts from Sacramento and all the other Littles participating in LittleSpace 2014.  Reservations Required. Please contact DaddyVinnie to let us know if you want to participate in the Breakfast at Plaza Inn.  We need to give an accurate headcount the day before the event!  Afterwards, we will ride Pirates of the Caribbean in New Orleans Square all together and then will go our separate ways to enjoy the park!1:00pm/1:30pm - Lunch at Space Place (outside Space Mountain)

Take a break from your day with a quick lunch with all the Bigs and littles! Maybe even make plans to ride a few rides together!

6:00pm - Get ready for Fantasmic! & Fireworks!

Bring a beach towel and claim your seat for the show! We will gather along the river’s edge just across from Pirates of the Caribbean at 6pm SHARP. Relax, chat with friends, and take turns reserving our space. Come and go as you please. Fantasmic! starts at 9pm and is immediately followed by the Fireworks Spectacular at 9:35pm, so stay seated!

Start time TBA to end around 1:30am - Meet and Greet (Location TBA)

Come meet with Daddy Vinnie and Lolita to make new Big/little friends and enjoy a social hour or two to wind down from the day! Since this is a more private environment, the sexual aspects of Big/little and ABDL topics can be appropriately discussed if interested. ((BYOB)) If you’re interested in this event, please contact Daddy Vinnie for the details

Sunday October 5th: California Adventure Day!
8:30am - Breakfast at *IHOP on 1560 S. Harbor BlvdAnaheim, CA.*

It’s across from the Disneyland Resort entrance. Start the day with new friends and a casual breakfast. We will depart at 9:30am and meander to California Adventure! This is the perfect event to attend if perhaps you’re unable to come inside the parks or to any of the previous meet ups!!

1:00pm - Group Ride at The Twilight Zone Tower of Terror!

Let’s all gather together to ride The Twilight Zone Tower of Terror! Let’s try and fill a whole car with Bigs and Littles! Afterwards, we will all walk together to the Lunch Discussion!

2:00pm - A Big Little Discussion Lunch at Flo’s V8 Cafe!

Come participate in a fun lunch discussion on all things Age Play, ABDL, Pet Play, and Daddy/little of all types! Of course since the discusssion is at a public venue it will be non-sexual and environment appropriate. Just like any fetlife public event, everyone is aware there are certain things you can and cannot discuss. There will be public friendly topic questions at hand! The San Diego “A Big Little Discussion Group” focuses on education and support for Littles and their caregivers who participate in consensual adult role play and relationships. We are a pansexual group and welcome all dynamics and sexual orientations. Come have lunch with us at Flo’s and join in an open discussion with other Bigs and Littles!

***
Travel & Accommodations:
Ride Amtrak or fly JetBlue - [http://www.jetblue.com].
Stay at the Anaheim Plaza Hotel & Suites - [http://www.anaheimplazahotel.com]
***
Spread the word, invite your friends, shout it out at the top of your lungs because it’s a Littles event for everyone!
If you have ANY questions please contact: Daddy Vinnie or Lolita.
Hope to see you there!

a-lolitas-life:

Calling all Daddies, Littles, Caregivers, Bigs, ABDLs, Pets and everyone in between! 

Come play at the Happiest Place on Earth!

                  ********LittleSpace Disneyland Trip 2014!!!********

There is no place like Disneyland to bring out the Little in all of us! Bring your friends and meet other littles and Bigs! Stay for a day or for the weekend! Join us for meals or do your own thing! Hang out in groups, or enjoy some one-on-one Big/little time! We just want to see you there!

(This event coincides with Gay Days in Anaheim! Wear red to show your pride and support!)

Here is the event page on FETLIFE where you can RSVP and keep up to date on any information about the Littlespace Disneyland Trip 2014!!

The Schedule:

Friday October 3rd: Pizza Party at Anaheim Plaza Hotel

7:00pm - Pizza Pool Party at Anaheim Plaza Hotel! (Hosted by Daddy Vinnie & Lolita)

Come swim in the pool or soak in the hot tub, eat pizza, and make new friends! (Please bring a small donation for purchase of Round Table Pizza.) The party ends after the fireworks, around 10pm.

Saturday October 4th: Disneyland Day!

New Breakfast Plans

9:00 am Breakfast at Plaza Inn at the end of MainStreet. 

Have breakfast with the Disney Characters!  Meet Little Scouts from Sacramento and all the other Littles participating in LittleSpace 2014.  Reservations Required. Please contact DaddyVinnie to let us know if you want to participate in the Breakfast at Plaza Inn.  We need to give an accurate headcount the day before the event!  Afterwards, we will ride Pirates of the Caribbean in New Orleans Square all together and then will go our separate ways to enjoy the park!

1:00pm/1:30pm - Lunch at Space Place (outside Space Mountain)

Take a break from your day with a quick lunch with all the Bigs and littles! Maybe even make plans to ride a few rides together!

6:00pm - Get ready for Fantasmic! & Fireworks!

Bring a beach towel and claim your seat for the show! We will gather along the river’s edge just across from Pirates of the Caribbean at 6pm SHARP. Relax, chat with friends, and take turns reserving our space. Come and go as you please. Fantasmic! starts at 9pm and is immediately followed by the Fireworks Spectacular at 9:35pm, so stay seated!

Start time TBA to end around 1:30am - Meet and Greet (Location TBA)

Come meet with Daddy Vinnie and Lolita to make new Big/little friends and enjoy a social hour or two to wind down from the day! Since this is a more private environment, the sexual aspects of Big/little and ABDL topics can be appropriately discussed if interested. ((BYOB)) If you’re interested in this event, please contact Daddy Vinnie for the details

Sunday October 5th: California Adventure Day!

8:30am - Breakfast at *IHOP on 1560 S. Harbor Blvd
Anaheim, CA.*

It’s across from the Disneyland Resort entrance. Start the day with new friends and a casual breakfast. We will depart at 9:30am and meander to California Adventure! This is the perfect event to attend if perhaps you’re unable to come inside the parks or to any of the previous meet ups!!

1:00pm - Group Ride at The Twilight Zone Tower of Terror!

Let’s all gather together to ride The Twilight Zone Tower of Terror! Let’s try and fill a whole car with Bigs and Littles! Afterwards, we will all walk together to the Lunch Discussion!

2:00pm - A Big Little Discussion Lunch at Flo’s V8 Cafe!

Come participate in a fun lunch discussion on all things Age Play, ABDL, Pet Play, and Daddy/little of all types! Of course since the discusssion is at a public venue it will be non-sexual and environment appropriate. Just like any fetlife public event, everyone is aware there are certain things you can and cannot discuss. There will be public friendly topic questions at hand! The San Diego “A Big Little Discussion Group” focuses on education and support for Littles and their caregivers who participate in consensual adult role play and relationships. We are a pansexual group and welcome all dynamics and sexual orientations. Come have lunch with us at Flo’s and join in an open discussion with other Bigs and Littles!

***

Travel & Accommodations:

Ride Amtrak or fly JetBlue - [http://www.jetblue.com].

Stay at the Anaheim Plaza Hotel & Suites - [http://www.anaheimplazahotel.com]

***

Spread the word, invite your friends, shout it out at the top of your lungs because it’s a Littles event for everyone!

If you have ANY questions please contact: Daddy Vinnie or Lolita.

Hope to see you there!

(via daddyvinnie)

subnelt:

pleasingdaddy:

mmm ok Daddy

Do you Daddy?

subnelt:

pleasingdaddy:

mmm ok Daddy

Do you Daddy?

(Source: the-rev-jimmy-juice)

a-lolitas-life:

Daddy and I are looking for someone to design a button for the “LittleSpace Disneyland 2014” trip!!

(Even if you’re not interested, help get the word out to your amazingly artistic followers by reblogging!)

Ideally we’d love to have a Little friendly button design that says:

“LittleSpace Disneyland 2014”

on it with an adorable design that fits our community. It can be as simple or elaborate as you like, we only require the words! Also, the buttons are going to be the large classic round shirt buttons.

If we pick your design - it will be worn all over Disneyland this year by the amazing Bigs and Littles attending the weekend (event. We will also post and promo your design work on our blogs!

(If there is anything you need in addition to that, we are willing to work with you.)

Please send your designs (600 x 600 minimum) to my email:

alolitaslife@gmail.com

If you have any questions at all, shoot me a message. Looking forward to seeing your amazing designs!!!

Xoxo,

Lolita

(via a-lolitas-life)

21 DAYS UNTIL LITTLESPACE 2014 at DISNEYLAND!
It’s almost here!  
Daddy Vinnie and Lolita Hayes invite all of your Daddies, Mommies, Caregivers, Littles, Pets and all varieties of DD/lg and Age Players to come out to the mostest, bestest Little experience of the year - LittleSpace 2014 at Disneyland - October, 3, 4, and 5.  
NEW EVENTS IN THE WORKS:  PLEASE CONTACT US IF YOU ARE PLANNING TO GO AS WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU.  SEND A MESSAGE TO DADDYVINNIE (use email listed on my sidebar). 
We’re trying to get an accurate count for who will be attending the breakfast at the Plaza Inn at 9:00 am - all you can eat breakfast inside the park for $27.00. Reservations Required.  The Disney Characters will be there!  We are combining the LittleSpace event with a visiting group, the Little Scouts from Sacramento for this special breakfast.   (We have reservations for 20.  We can change those reservations up until the last day, but we need to give a count.  So let me know if you’ll be coming to the breakfast and all the other events.  As far as the $27.00 go, it’s almost the same price you’d pay at the RiverBelle Terrace.)
All of the rest of the events are the same, starting on Friday night Oct. 3 with a meet and greet and pool/pizza party, Oct. 4 Disneyland events plus Fantasmic! and after hours room meet up, and Oct. 5th California Adventure events, with Daddy Vinnie’s and Lolita’s A Big Little Discussion on the road held at Flo’s V-8 diner in Carsland!
Let DaddyVinnie know if you will be attending and how many of you so we know to meet up with you.  Contact me by email, listed on my sidebar.  
We’re SOOOOO excited!  It’s going to be the bestest LittleSpace at Disneyland ever!!
- Daddy Vinnie

21 DAYS UNTIL LITTLESPACE 2014 at DISNEYLAND!

It’s almost here!  

Daddy Vinnie and Lolita Hayes invite all of your Daddies, Mommies, Caregivers, Littles, Pets and all varieties of DD/lg and Age Players to come out to the mostest, bestest Little experience of the year - LittleSpace 2014 at Disneyland - October, 3, 4, and 5.  

NEW EVENTS IN THE WORKS:  PLEASE CONTACT US IF YOU ARE PLANNING TO GO AS WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU.  SEND A MESSAGE TO DADDYVINNIE (use email listed on my sidebar). 

We’re trying to get an accurate count for who will be attending the breakfast at the Plaza Inn at 9:00 am - all you can eat breakfast inside the park for $27.00. Reservations Required.  The Disney Characters will be there!  We are combining the LittleSpace event with a visiting group, the Little Scouts from Sacramento for this special breakfast.   (We have reservations for 20.  We can change those reservations up until the last day, but we need to give a count.  So let me know if you’ll be coming to the breakfast and all the other events.  As far as the $27.00 go, it’s almost the same price you’d pay at the RiverBelle Terrace.)

All of the rest of the events are the same, starting on Friday night Oct. 3 with a meet and greet and pool/pizza party, Oct. 4 Disneyland events plus Fantasmic! and after hours room meet up, and Oct. 5th California Adventure events, with Daddy Vinnie’s and Lolita’s A Big Little Discussion on the road held at Flo’s V-8 diner in Carsland!

Let DaddyVinnie know if you will be attending and how many of you so we know to meet up with you.  Contact me by email, listed on my sidebar.  

We’re SOOOOO excited!  It’s going to be the bestest LittleSpace at Disneyland ever!!

- Daddy Vinnie

daddyslittleprincess-daddydom said: Dear Vinnie! I've followed you for a long time and finally have a question, my daddy and I have troubles. I have the need for him to be more dominant, take control and he has the need for me to be more submissive, it seems I like to be in control and although I try hard to be submissive and I love to completely give myself over to it's power I get stressed not being in control because I've been through a lot of bad things with men in my life. Any advise for a struggling submissive ? ❤️❤️ Starr

Dear daddyslittleprincess-daddydom,

Hooray, a question from a long time follower!   Oh no that it’s about troubles.   Darn those troubles.

There are many couples who face the situation you describe.  Most excellent submissives are actually firmly in control of the majority of their lives.  They are CEOs at big companies, successful professionals with successful personal lives as well.   They are in control of their lives.   And often, they have trouble — at first, or even after a number or scores of years — giving up that control, for a variety of reasons.  Unless it’s a deeply psychological reason, it’s a common scenario, the submissive who fights against giving up control.

You may have a local kink community that offer educational or support groups.  Our community has groups solely for submissives, or solely for Dominants, and then many groups for couples or kinksters of all varieties who all have varying interests.  If you can find a support group for submissives, try to attend. You’ll make great friends and see that many others struggle in the same way you do. There will be some advice and insight to glean, and you’ll be on your way to solving your own issue here.

Also, read a lot of works by and about submissives.  

Focus on you, not on whether or not your Dominant can be more Dominant.  Let him be who he is. You can’t change people.  But you can work more on yourself.  

Then approach your relationships - the D/s framework of it - like a play in which each of you must play a role. Play YOUR role as best you can.  Submit.  Truly submit.  Most people who want that control while submitting are actually bumping up into trust issues.  But if you truly trust your partner, then trust your partner.  Trust yourself to submit.  Do your best NOT to control the situation.  Give up that control. 

At a time when you are not engaged in play, talk to each other. Tell each other what you like about the dynamic, what you want more of, what’s working, what’s not.  First one person goes and one person listens. Then the other person talks and the first person listens.   Don’t say what the other person should or should not do.  Focus on what you want, what you crave, what you like - and what you don’t.  Use “I” statements and focus on you.  ”I’d like to feel more spankings.”  ”I’d like to find opportunities to submit more, or to receive more punishments, or FUNishments.”   Whatever it is you want, express it.  But don’t say what your partner should do.  Say what YOU want.   IF you want to submit more, then submit more.  Crawl to his feet, curl up and lay there.  There’s a huge difference between this approach and saying, “I want you to do X to me more.”  ”You’re NOT doing X to me more, but I’d really like that!”  

The one approach expresses your needs.  The other approach is criticism, and criticism breeds defensiveness.   Speak to each other openly and without agenda.  

Together, you’ll be able to figure out what each of you can and wants to bring to your D/s dynamic.    

Trust is a really important thing to bring to your role as a submissive and to your part of a relationship.   D/s relationships require a degree of trust beyond anything I’ve even known in a relationship.  So yes, it’s a high wall to climb.  But once you reach the top of that wall, the vista goes on….. forever.

Give it a try and then write me back and let me know how it goes!  Thanks for writing!  

- Daddy Vinnie

stringlesspassionatefriendship said: Daddy Vinnie, A few months back you gave me good advice about taking things slowly in finding a Daddy. I've learned a lot about what I want and I'm getting more comfortable in expressing that clearly. Just had a potential relationship turn out to not be for me and it was hard because I was so surprised that he decided to be snarky and demeaning in the end. I'm still proud of myself, but DARN IT! Just wanted to let you know I'm hanging in there and your words have stayed with me.

Dear stringlesspassionatefriendship,

Hello and thanks for writing me back!   That’s SO good that you went through that process of a potential relationship and yet held to what you want.   

You should be proud of yourself.  Good for you!

There are a lot of people out there who are….not so reliable.  There are a lot of misfits and scammers out there, too.  I think most of the people are probably just kind of lost, not knowing what they want and pretending as they go along.  So when push comes to shove and they run into someone, like yourself, who does know what she wants, they don’t know how to act.

Remember that other people’s snarkiness and demeaning natures aren’t a reflection of yourself.  They say more about him than anything.  That’s true of all negative behaviors about a person.  Don’t take those things personally!

Good for you in hanging in there!  The right person will come along for you, and you will be there and ready and receptive.  

Thank you for the honor of putting my words to the test.  Being true to yourself (i didn’t make that up, btw. ;-)) is a difficult yet essential quality for having a remarkable life.

Write back and let me know how things are going from time to time. Huggs!

- Daddy Vinnie

ialwaysreadorganismwrong said: Well with an age gap of a whopping 27 years, we began our LDR in October. LDRs suck but it's the best we've got, I suppose. I am a huge fan of (in addition to having a teenybig crush on) you and your Lo! Your blog is so helpful! I'm always won...

Oh my very goodness! My apologies for you not receiving the message. It was roughly me talking about how Papapotomous and I have been in a LDR since mid October. We have a 27 year age gap, which is absolutely one of the hottest things ever. I also said that I do.. uhm.. have a teenybig crush on you.. I really hope you don’t find that inappropriate. But I talk about your blog to Daddy all the time and (although he doesn’t do the tumblr) he says that from what he’s heard from me, you’re a “groovy” guy (hehe he’s so old). I’ve found your blog extremely helpful and I believe that Lo is very lucky to have a Daddy like you! There are so many babies being mistreated by their bigs and that’s not how bdsm works. I love to see dynamics that are functional and happy! My Daddums is a very loving man. He never allows me to apologise for things (which is my worst habit) and loves me no matter what. He’s also super smart! He builds things! *Whispers* On a molecular leveeeelll! If I had to say that I was a certain age, I’d be about four or five in that I’m still madly in love with my paci and stuffed babies and princesses! I’m not meaning to ramble, I just really love talking about my Dada c:

— ialwaysreadorganismwrong

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Dear ialwaysreadorganismwrong,
Thanks for writing!  A 27 year age gap is great!  The age gap between me and my Lolita is a little over 22 years.   And it’s super fun to have a Daddy who builds things and can help you with your homework….on a molecular level.  haha!   
Thanks for visiting my blog.  Hope you stop by again soon.
- Daddy Vinnie

Anonymous said: Hi Daddy Vinnie. I am in a dd/lg relationship with the sweetest man alive (my personal perspective). But he seems to be scared to hurt me. He always gives me a time-out when I've been bad, always (he has read somewhere on the net that that's a very effective little punishment). But sometimes I need a little more than just a time-out because I feel like I don't learn much from it... how can I tell him this respectfully? Thank you! ^^

Dear Wants Something More Anon,

Sounds like someone’s asking for a spanking.  It’s up to your Daddy to punish you in the way he likes best.   

If you want more - such as a spanking - maybe you can institute spanking time as a playtime activity.   

I think if you get on all hours in front of him and wag your butt and look up at him coyly and say, “Daddy, will you spank me?” you very well might get a reaction from him.  It’s really up to you and your dynamic.   

But…. if you like spankings or want something else, why would your Daddy give you a spanking for a punishment if you like it?   Sooooo, you see, your Daddy gets to choose which punishment he thinks works best for you!

At certain times, outside of your roles, you may wish to talk about what works and what does work about your dynamic.  Then you can both grow in your roles and see what is the best for you both.

Instead of time-out, he could ask you to write lines.  Would that be better?  Be careful what you wish for. :)

- Daddy Vinnie

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