freesvale asked: Hi Daddy Vinnie :) Hope you're having a nice week. So, my friend knows about my need for little time and well the fact that I'm a little -oh thank you for your advice the other time, it helped lots! Anyway, she asked me for your url and is impressed! We both noted how important your advice is and how maybe it has kept a lot of littles or curious anons safe. Thank you for doing this, don't think I've ever properly thanked you. Hope Lo is fine. (: x
Dear frees vale,
This has got to be ONE OF THE NICEST ASKS I’VE EVER RECEIVED.
Thank you, awesome follower! I’m glad your friend was impressed with my blog - (what was it? tell me? My stunning good looks? My debonair air? My riches and fame?? *wink*… Ha!)
If I have kept even one Little, one Daddy - one person - safe or provided information that has made them smile or helped them, I feel blessed in my life. I’m not very religious, nor do I blog to “help” others. But if that’s the by-product of my writing, I like that… a lot. It’s a small contribution in this big wide world, but I’ll take it. (If i could solve the middle east crisis, poverty, disease, and such, I’d feel blessed too. We all have something to contribute, and I just try to be me.)
It’s extremely kind of you to thank me. Thank YOU for being so kind to a stranger. We need more of that in this world.
And since you asked about Lo, she is sitting across from me in a coffeeshop, so darned frickin’ cute, working on blogging and homework, and I just wanna….. tear her to pieces and all the most delectable ways. She’s doing great. Love her to pieces! (Reese’s pieces.. she’s a candy fiend! haha).
Thanks for the note. Stop by again something soon and let me know what you’re up to. Huggs!
- Daddy Vinnie
stringlesspassionatefriendship asked: I've been a little forever but never known about anyone else wanting to feel the way I do; reading about other people's experience is helping me understand and ask for what I want more clearly. I've been meeting people on line, and I'm experienced in being physically safe. But exploring this side of myself, opening up to a caretaking relationship makes me emotionally vulnerable. Any advice on keeping strong while I'm looking? I feel like I really need a daddy and it's hard to be on my own.
Hello! Thanks for writing to me. First, congrats on further embracing your Little side! That’s awesome. As for meeting people online, if you read more of my blog, you will see that I’m not a huge fan of that. It’s a great way to make friends, but not a great way to build true intimacy. There are too many variables that are left out in online communication that thwart and work against relationships, and there are soooo many players, too, people who are just downright fucked up and dishonest, whether they know it or not.
The best way to stay strong is to keep looking inside and expressing your Little side to yourself. ”Know thyself” is an important maxim in life. Know what you like, how you like to be treated. Know how to treat yourself well, with respect and dignity and care and fun. Find all those “Little” things that you like, whether it’s coloring and My Little Pony, or riding on carousels or swinging at swings at the park, or being a shameless innocent flirt at bars.. .whatever it is that makes you FEEL “Little,” embrace that!
The more you embrace yourself, the more you will attract the people into your life who will complement you. Yes, I said “complement” you - NOT complete you. A Daddy won’t complete you. You must be strong on your own in order to have a healthy relationship. I do not care what your relationships dynamic is. When one partner is unhealthy, relationships can suffer and be thrown out of whack, especially if those troubles are internal and denied.
Be strong for yourself and indulge your Little. You’ll soon attract and find that Daddy who is just perfect for you!
Thanks for visiting my blog. I hope to hear from you again.
- Daddy Vinnie
My Daddy and I are thinking of starting a blog or Tumblr to post our sexcapades and information about our relationship/journey. We both are cautious about revealing our faces in videos or pictures. For me, one hand I’m thinking if someone finds videos/photos of me I’d be like “well WHAT were you looking for to find it?” but on the other hand I don’t want stalkers/crazy people obsessed with me and my Dom. Does the triad worry about this? Also does the triad worry about blogging about BDSM affecting their work?
Thank you for *submitting* to me. I always forget my submission box is open. That was for pervy pictures (c’mon you pervs out there, send me your pervy pics…with your Daddies’ permissions of course!). Occasionally I’ll get a question in the submission box.
Obviously, I and my Lolita blog very openly than a lot of people. And we know a lot of other people who do as well. You must blog to your comfort level. We’ll post a picture here and there of our faces, but we’re cautious of just posting all over the place pictures of us for all to see. My Lolita doesn’t, for instance, post revealing pics of herself like a lot of others because of potential backlash in her career. I also don’t go that route normally either. There’s not a lot of overlap between my career and what I blog about here. But I’m not running to my boss and saying, “Did you see my blog??” If it ever becomes an issue, I’ll deal with it then.
I’m not ashamed nor hiding my life. There are just pragmatic considerations about keeping myself employed and receiving a paycheck. It helps me to eat and pay bills.
Stalkers and crazy people are few and far between. We’ve had our share of nasty comments, some we’ve responded to and some we have just ignored. You learn to ignore them mostly. We’ve had stalker or stalker-ish behavior too. Best to ignore that or outright publicly confront and stare it down with threats to expose the stalker. They usually are cowards and back down. Also, the ignore button is your friend. If people say things you don’t like, it’s your blog - you don’t have to post them. (For the record, my Lolita and I rarely delete questions. Occasionally, when they’re childish and immature, but we respond to 99% of the questions we receive.)
We do have concerns about crazies, but nothing out of the ordinary for anyone who publicly blogs or writes. There’s always someone who doesn’t agree with your point of view or has a different approach. They’re entitled to their opinions. It doesn’t make them right! (For instance, did you know there is an organization called the “Flat Earth Society,” that truly believe the Earth is flat? Scientifically, it’s not true, can be shown the earth is NOT flat, but they’re entitled to their *wrong* opinions). I don’t waste my breath correcting people’s ignorance. Opinions rarely change, even wrong ones. But I do like to have intelligent discussions about topics that I’m excited about, like bdsm, DD/lg, polyamory, and the like.)
Can BDSM blogging negatively affect our lives? Potentially. It depends how and in what context it’s revealed, but we also believe STRONGLY in freedom and liberty and freedom of expression. We have the right to express ourselves in this country. And if we are doing so within the law and not interfering with anyone else’s rights, then we’re going to continue to do what we do.
Speaking out about what’s right - human rights - and the things you believe in - is important. I will stand by my rights to express myself and I will respect that right too and try not to make an ass of myself and say stupid things like……. “so on your vacation, did you get to the edge of the Earth? Were you afraid of falling off?” *wink*
As for DD/lg and BDSM, I will share pervy things as protected by the First Amendment of the United States Constitution, all those naughty taboo things that my Lolita and I do and think. We are consensual adults and are breaking no laws. If others are uncomfortable with our topics, they don’t need to read what we write.
I hope this is helpful to you! If you do start blogging about your adventures, let us know. We’d like to peek in and see what kind of pervy stuff y’all are up to. :)
Thanks for visiting my blog. Stop by soon and say hello again. You’re always welcome here.
- Daddy Vinnie
vanillem asked: Hello! Manly Little Anon here! ^-^ I just wanted to say thank you for answering my question. You really helped a lot!
Yay! You came off Anon. Thanks so much for being friends. :) Keep in touch and let me know all about your fun adventures.
- Daddy Vinnie
Anonymous asked: I saw a question you answered the other day about younger men who are daddies tend to be pretenders and that kind of struck me because the reasons you cited were valid. I am just curious if you think that about all men in their early to mid 20's or is it just a generalization. My little is 20 and I myself am 24. With that being said I am in a successful carreer, I go to school, I am well traveled etc. I do not feel like a pretender, it's just my nature. I only ask becaue it has raised questions.
Dear Non-Pretended Anon,
Thanks for the question. I encourage you to re-read my original response. I said some younger men can be good Daddies and some are pretenders.
I know some young men who are older in spirit than their years and some who are extremely immature for their age, too. Age isn’t the factor that makes or breaks being a Daddy.
I’m not an ALL or NOTHING kind of person …. EVER *wink* I don’t have a response about ALL men in their 20s, or ALL men period about anything. We’re all different, …. and we’re all individually different from day to day. The person I am today, will not be here when I wake up tomorrow. Tomorrow I will be yesterday’s person + one day. That’s a huge difference, depending what happens. And the little things matter.
Having a career, going to school, being well-traveled aren’t necessarily Daddy attributes, but they certainly are cool things. I wouldn’t worry too much about what anybody thinks, including me, about your approach to being a Daddy.
If you have heart, are sincere, love your little girl, and have a relationship that you both enjoy, then you’re doing just as you should — for you.
Feeling genuine within yourself is a great feeling and one that I wish everyone can feel at one time or another in his or her life. So, not feeling like a pretender? Good for you!
Thanks for the question. Stop by and say hi, and come off Anon and be friends. I’ll buy you a soda, young man *wink* ha! (fuck, hanging head, I sound like my father. haha).
- Daddy Vinnie
zrostov asked: For the anon that was worried about being "too manly" to find a Daddy, I just wanted to write in to let them know they don't have to worry about that all. My little one is gender-fluid, and quite often prefers dressing as a little boy, working on cars, doing yard work, and one of her favorite sippy cups is decorated with the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles (not saying that the Turtles are for boys exclusively), so don't worry, your Daddy is out there, Just be you.
Thanks so much! I can’t say that enough about any approach to life - be yourself. And be true to yourself.
In doing so, you will invite the people into your life who are right for you.
Thanks, zrostov! I appreciate the great comment. :)
- Daddy Vinnie
elmos-little-princess asked: Would you recommend the 1962 Lolita film or the 1997 one? Or should I just download the both of them? :) Thankies xx
Hello! Long time no talk. I hope you’re doing fine. ABSOLUTELY download and watch both Lolita movies. They’re the same story of course, with completely different moods and approaches. It’s fun to watch the differences. There are soooo many things I like about both of them, but with my Lolita’s help, I’ve really come to enjoy Dominique Swain’s version of Lolita. So snarky she is!
Enjoy! Let me know how you liked them. :)
- Daddy Vinnie
Anonymous asked: Is it okay for a little to be interested in what most people think to be "manly" things? For instance, I enjoy working on cars and playing paintball and I feel like maybe I won't be able to get a daddy because of the things I'm interested in. :/
Dear Manly Little Anon,
You may absolutely be interested in ANY THINK YOU WANT TO, even if you’re in the DD/lg world. I know many Littles who are strong athletes, and there are many “girly girls” I know who know more about cars than I do.
Believe in yourself, enjoy the things you enjoy, and don’t pretend to be anything you are not, and you will attract a Daddy who will accept you for who you are!
As we teach the minions, there are no boy and girl colors. There are no boy and girl toys. (Hopefully, someday, we can say there are no boy and girl bathrooms, or boy and girl professions, or even boy and girl clothes.) I am all for a world of gender equality and fluidity and peace, kindness, and compassion for all!
Thanks for writing. Stop by again soon. Come off Anon and be friends!
- Daddy Vinnie